How to Tell Your Roommate You're Moving Out
Having a roommate can be very convenient, especially if the rent is more than you could afford by yourself. Roommates can provide you with company, help you pay the bills and do half of the chores so you have more time for relaxation. If you have a roommate, chances are that he or she depends on you for the same benefits. For this reason, telling your roommate you're moving out often provokes anxiety. Follow the tips below to make the process as smooth and pain-free as possible.
1. Tell your roommate as soon as possible.
As soon as you know you will need to move out, inform your roommate so he or she can find someone else to live with if necessary. You should also inform your roommate of your exact move-out date so that he or she can plan to be out of the way.
2. Start the conversation carefully.
The method you should use to approach the subject of moving out depends on the type of relationship you have with your roommate. For example, if you and your roommate are close and speak freely, you can give the news over dinner or in another casual setting. However, if you and your roommate aren't getting along well, it may be better to inform him or her of your plans via email.
3. Explain your decision.
Your roommate needs to understand why you have decided to leave. Gently and diplomatically explain your decision. If you have decided to move out because of disagreements or conflicts with your roommate, try not to place blame directly on the roommate when giving your explanation. The smoother this conversation goes, the easier it will be to move out.
4. Make your final arrangements.
When you move out, you must make arrangements to pay all of the final bills. Sit down with your roommate and discuss each bill that needs to be paid before you move out. Because your roommate may be taken off guard when you mention that you are leaving, agree to pay half the final bills if you can.
5. Treat your roommate with respect.
Regardless of how you feel about your roommate, try to keep things civil as you make this final separation. In everything that you do, treat your roommate the way you would want him or her to treat you. You never know when you may need to list this roommate as a personal reference, so don't burn the bridge if you don't have to.